How do you recognise the cryptogram of a cheating boyfriend or husband? Unfortunately it’s a question that has been in the minds of women since the dawn of time. It will probably always be that way too. As long as women and men have relationships, there will be quite a few of them who are cheating. It’s a unadorned but unavoidable fact of life. I know this from private experience. A boyfriend of mine cheated on me many years ago, which was terrible enough, but then my first husband also had an affair. Luckily, I eventually cultured from my mistakes, and am now happily married to a wonderful guy, but for those of you not so fortunate, here are a few things to watch out for.

He’s out more

One of the obvious things you’ll see is that your man is suddenly spending more time “with friends”, or “effective late”. If you don’t live with your boyfriend, you might simply find that he desires to go out with you less, and complains of being tired. Maybe there’s suddenly a lot more sport on TV that he desires to watch. The distress with affairs is that they are time consuming, mainly if the additional person is single, and has plenty of time that they want to waste with their lover. Your husband or boyfriend will be under pressure to waste time with the additional woman, and will have to find this time from somewhere.

Over compensating

Even cheating men suffer from guilt. Studies have shown that people who have affairs usually still like their partner. If he despised you, you’d be being paid dumped, not cheated on! This guilt often manifests itself in unusually frequents gifts or compliments. If your man has always given you flowers and told you he likes you, you’re probably OK. If he suddenly starts doing these things after a couple of years, then be on your guard.

More telephone calls

People having affairs can’t usually waste as much time together as they want to, so they have to communicate in additional ways, and it’s usually via the telephone. In the ancient days, it was more hard, because people only had land affect. Remember the line from the ancient Dr Hook song – “Then somebody hangs up when you answer the phone”? But, these days everyone has a cell phone. The largest giveaway is that a cheating boyfriend or husband will suddenly get very touchy about his mobile phone. Perhaps there was a time when he’d be pleased for you to see who he got a text message from. These days, his cell phone is never out of his reach, and he nearly jumps when he gets a call or a message while you’re around.

This is how I caught out my first husband – I became suspicious, and managed to note down the numbers he’d been texting and calling. I then checked them out with a Reverse Phone Number Search – something he’d never heard of. This is usually a website where you pay a few dollars, and then you can use their database to find out who owns a phone number. If you’re suspicious of who your partner has been calling, then you should sign up for one of these phone searches now. They cost very small, and will any confirm your suspicions, or place your mind at rest.



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