I’ve never been unfaithful and she has a ton of male friends (that I accept willingly) and isn’t willing to discuss it. I no longer speak with my oldest and best friend because of her jealousy. What should I do?
February 8, 2010
Is it fair that my wife won’t let me have female friends?
I’ve never been unfaithful and she has a ton of male friends (that I accept willingly) and isn’t willing to discuss it. I no longer speak with my oldest and best friend because of her jealousy. What should I do?
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i’m with her
Comment by Anonymous — February 10, 2010 @ 1:58 pm
I would love to have male friends, but I would end up shagging them! lol
Comment by Anonymous — February 13, 2010 @ 4:00 pm
yah cause ur an idiot..always lfirting and shit u know…behave ur self yuong man|!
Comment by Anonymous — February 14, 2010 @ 10:40 am
you should tell her that abraham had two wives and you only want female friends
Comment by Anonymous — February 17, 2010 @ 10:46 am
Sounds like double standards. Accept or ditch.
Comment by Anonymous — February 18, 2010 @ 9:27 pm
no its not fair, friends are friends, she should trust your loyalty and judgement
Comment by Anonymous — February 20, 2010 @ 2:08 am
Good for her, but not for you?
Screw that noise. If she can do it so can you.
Straight up.
Comment by Anonymous — February 23, 2010 @ 1:19 pm
You are allowing it. If she doesn’t have to be questioned then why should you. You should tell her that she is your friend and she needs to get over it just like you get over her male friends. Is she controlling cause you sound like a “yes mam” kind of guy…sorry… if the friend is genuinely JUST A FRIEND she will have to be made to change her thinking
Comment by Anonymous — February 25, 2010 @ 9:50 am
I don’t think that is fair at all! My best friend in the whole world is a guy and I would laugh in any boyfriend of mines face if he told me i couldn’t be friends with him! You can be friends with whoever you want…if your wife can’t trust you then maybe there is something wrong with the relationship? You have a right to be friends with females…get in touch with your old best friend!
Comment by Anonymous — February 25, 2010 @ 2:33 pm
I would understand her demanding that if you demanded it of her, but since you are accepting that she can and does have male friends, then I can’t see why you can’t have female ones.
Do not allow her to have this double standard – what’s good for her is good for you too. If she can have friends of the opposite sex so can you. If you can’t, then nor can she.
Perhaps she has a problem with you doing what she does because she knows how tempting it can be? Just a thought.
Comment by Anonymous — February 27, 2010 @ 7:43 am
Either accept it or move on
She either doesn’t trust you or is just way overly jealous. The jealousy could take a really long time to get over.
Be careful- She might not want you to have girl friends because she might have some intentions OR feelings towards her friends, and she’s worried that you may too.
But, I could be wrong.
Oh- Just tell her if YOU can’t have friends of the opposite sex, she can’t either. Simple and fair.
Comment by Anonymous — February 27, 2010 @ 9:18 pm
Man-up!
If she has male friends then you get out there and get female friends end of story…
If she makes rules that she dont want to obey herself then tough lol.
I have female friends and my ex gf had male friends. I did not hide them from her but she hid hers from me and I left her lol!
Comment by Anonymous — March 1, 2010 @ 1:29 am
i would tell her to grow up. if she has male friends and u have never cheated you can have female friends. communicate with your friends. if she can’t accept u for who u are then screw her.life is too short.
Comment by Anonymous — March 1, 2010 @ 2:37 pm
Heres the thing- My husband had a female friend he would talk to online all the time, and i didnt like it, and eventually, she started coming between us and our marriage because of a lot of things between the two of them, so I told him either you get rid of her or you can say goodbye to me. And he got rid of her- and i know he did, I still make sure of it.
But look- Married couples need to learn something- because obviously they dont get it these days. When a man and woman marry, they need to respect the others wishes (if they are not cruel and abusive and evil and wrong) and they need to respect the others feelings- including you and your wife. See, having other women in your life is totally disrespectful to your wife- in every possible way. If she is married to you she deserves ALL of you- she she cant have all of you of your off with other “girl friends”. It cant work- and a married couple having friends of the opposite sex never works and will always end in disaster.
And your wife needs to practice what she preaches and stop having male friends and focus only on YOU and her FEMALE friends. Its not right for her to say that you cant have any female friends yet shes got a bunch of male- and you NEED to point that out to her. You two need to learn how to respect eachother and respect the sanctity of your marriage. My husband and I are each others only friends- and were totally happy that way. We dont associate with other people, were content being with each other all day every day, and enjoying each others company. Im so glad i had him get rid of that girl- because he would say he had no feelings for her, but it turned out, after a while he started developing some for her, so i nipped it in the bud before it could possibly get worse, and now, months later with no contact (again, i have proof), we are much better off, much happier with each other, and have grown closer. No other woman or man in a marriage is ever a good thing- and will always bite you in the @$$.
Comment by Anonymous — March 4, 2010 @ 6:19 am
Is it female friends in general or just this one friend? Maybe she has reason to feel threatened.Is she a jealous person otherwise?Does your oldest friend have a partner she loves to bits? Do you have a good male friend you can talk to about it.?
Comment by Anonymous — March 7, 2010 @ 9:01 am
im also with her
Comment by Anonymous — March 7, 2010 @ 5:50 pm
Ooh . . . that’s a toughie. You said that she isn’t willing to discuss it indicating that you have tried to discuss this matter. She isn’t willing to discuss it possibly because of fear of your reaction and/or her own conflicting feelings.
the situation begs the questions: do you both know, have met, have socialized with each others’ friends? Or is she unwilling to do that . . . are you?
Personally, I love having platonic friendships with members of the opposite sex–gives me a different perspective on things and has been healthy for me . . . for the most part.
I don’t know if this helps . . . but maybe it’s something to think about.
Comment by Anonymous — March 8, 2010 @ 2:08 pm
Unfair.
Woman who usually have issues with there significant other having the opposite sex as friends usually are really insecure.
Relationships are a 50/50 thing not a 80/20 thing.
With that being said Too hell with her rules on your friends. What if the tables were turned how would she feel ?
As long as you don’t cheat, Enjoy female friendship despite her objections.
Comment by Anonymous — March 9, 2010 @ 11:55 am
i think you’re in an abusive relationship in a way that your wife is controlling your social needs and freedom as well.
talk to her in a diplomatic manner and tell her that what she has said is really affecting you that you have to consult to anonymous third party computer bums for help.
Comment by Anonymous — March 12, 2010 @ 6:10 am
Divorce her!
She deserves far better than you…
Comment by Anonymous — March 15, 2010 @ 4:47 am